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I4L, Tips to Greatness: Navigating Life with Insightful Information (T2G Series)
Part 10 of 12: The Bullshit of 'Their Truth' vs Reality
Believing something doesn't make it true. This simple fact seems increasingly forgotten in our era of "my truth" declarations, where personal feelings have somehow gained equal footing with objective reality.
What started as a well-intentioned way to honor different perspectives has morphed into something far more troubling. We track the evolution from "I believe" to "that's my truth," examining how this subtle shift created a dangerous loophole in accountability. When confronted with evidence of harmful behavior, many retreat to "that's just my truth" as if subjective perception negates the impact of actions.
The weaponization of personal truth takes multiple forms. Beyond dodging responsibility, people use "their truth" to manipulate conversations through emotional blackmail or to make serious allegations without providing evidence. Perhaps most dangerous is how this approach justifies illogical thinking and harmful ideologies by placing personal belief systems beyond examination.
We distinguish between three critical types of truth: objective truth that exists regardless of belief, subjective truth based on personal experience, and distorted truth where feelings masquerade as facts. Understanding these distinctions reveals why "my truth" culture threatens our ability to solve problems collectively—we can't address climate change, public health crises, or social inequity if we can't agree on basic reality.
For those tired of navigating this frustrating landscape, we offer practical strategies: asking for evidence behind claims, gently separating feelings from facts in conversations, and sometimes allowing reality itself to be the teacher. Because at day's end, your feelings absolutely matter—but they don't change facts. You're entitled to your own experiences, not your own version of reality. When was the last time you changed your mind because facts proved you wrong?
The Bullshit of their Truth vs Reality. Believing something doesn't make it true and if we pretend otherwise, we're all screwed. Introduction the Rise of my Truth Culture. At some point in the last couple of decades, people stopped saying I believe and started saying that's my truth. It's like everyone's starring in their own reality show. The Real Delusions of Me and facts are just bad. Lighting, sounds, harmless, right, wrong, oh, so wrong, because what started as a way for people to express personal experience has mutated into a get-out-of-reality-free card. Got caught lying Well, that's my truth. Ignored all the facts Well, I feel this way. So it's valid. Refused to be accountable, this is just my lived experience. We've reached a point where people think their personal perception overrides objective reality, and it's making society dumber by the day. We're one my Truth. Away from debating if gravity is just a vibe, in this episode we're breaking down where the idea of my Truth came from and how it got twisted, how people use it to dodge responsibility and manipulate others, why reality doesn't care about your feelings and why that's a really good thing and, most importantly, how to challenge this nonsense while keeping your sanity, because, at the end of the day, there's a difference between telling your story and rewriting reality. So let's get into it.
Speaker 1:1. Where my Truth Came From and how it Got Twisted. Originally, my Truth had a reasonable purpose. It was a way to acknowledge that different people experience events differently. To acknowledge that different people experience events differently. It gave space for subjective reality, because emotions, perspectives and personal history do shape how we see the world. It allowed people to share experiences without arguing over them. Example if two people experienced the same breakup, one might say my truth is that I felt abandoned, while the other might say my truth is that I felt suffocated. Neither is wrong, that's just how they processed it. But somewhere along the way, people started confusing feelings with facts. Now it's less I feel this and more I've crowned my emotions. King of physics, bow peasants. Now, instead of saying I feel like you were unfair, people say my truth is that you were abusive, regardless of what actually happened. And that's where things go off the rails, because personal perception is not the same as objective reality. Your truth doesn't get a vote in the periodic table.
Speaker 1:2. The three ways people weaponize their truth. People don't just use their truth to express themselves. They use it to rewrite reality in ways that are dishonest, manipulative and, quite frankly dangerous.
Speaker 1:1. Dodging accountability. One of the biggest abuses of my truth is using it to avoid consequences. Someone lies about an event. That's how I remember it. They hurt someone. Well, I don't see it that way. They refuse to own up to bad behavior. That's just my truth. Reality check behavior. That's just my truth. Reality check your truth doesn't erase your actions. It's like saying sorry, officer, my truth is that I'm a unicorn. Speed limits don't even apply. If you cheat, steal, lie or betray someone, you don't get to rebrand history just because you'd rather not deal with the consequences. Your intentions don't erase your impact. And calling it your truth Uh, it doesn't change what actually happened.
Speaker 1:2. Manipulating others. Another way their truth gets twisted, using it to control conversations and gaslight people. Example 1. The emotional blackmail play. Person A hey, that thing you did really hurt me. Person B Well, my truth is that you hurt me first, so actually, this is your fault. Example 2. The reputation smear. Person A this person was toxic to me. Other people Wait, what did they actually do? Person A I don't need to prove it, that's my truth.
Speaker 1:This kind of reality warping is dangerous because it lets people avoid providing evidence for their claims, flip the script to make themselves the victim and control the narrative through emotions instead of facts. It's Oscar-worthy Best sob story in a fake reality. Reality check If you need to manipulate someone into agreeing with your truth. It's not true. It's a story you're forcing onto reality.
Speaker 1:3. Justifying bad ideas and illogical thinking. The final way their truth becomes bullshit when people use it to defend ideas that don't hold up to scrutiny. For example, flat earthers science is fake. My truth is that the earth is flat. Anti-vaxxers I did my own research and my truth is that vaccines are poison People who ignore consequences. I manifested a better reality. Your facts don't apply to me. This is how delusion spreads. Instead of people saying here's my opinion, let's debate it, they say here's my truth and you can't challenge it because it's my truth. It's my truth, my truth.
Speaker 1:And once everyone's personal truth is treated as equally valid, facts become meaningless. Next up, my truth says the moon's a disco ball. Prove me wrong, nasa, the cold, hard reality. Truth isn't personal. Here's the thing your experience is real, absolutely real, but reality is not up for debate. There are three types of truth.
Speaker 1:One, objective truth, reality that exists whether you believe it or not. So, for example, water boils at 100 degrees Celsius, gravity exists. If you jump off a building, you fall. Two subjective truth how you experience reality. I love spicy food. You hate it. Both are true, but only in personal context.
Speaker 1:Three distorted truth. When people pass subjective feelings off as objective facts, I feel betrayed. So that means you're a horrible person. The problem is that people treat subjective and distorted truths as if they're both objective. People treat subjective and distorted truths as if they're both objective. It's like they've upgraded their feelings to VIP status. Sorry, gravity, you're not on the list. Reality doesn't care about your truth. You don't get to redefine math because you feel like two plus two equals five. You don't get to rewrite history because it makes you uncomfortable. You don't get to ignore facts because they don't align with your worldview. And if we start pretending otherwise, society collapses into emotional chaos. Cue the apocalypse where everyone's arguing their truth over the last Twinkie.
Speaker 1:4. How to challenge faulty logic without losing your mind. So what do you do when someone hits you with that's my truth as a way to dodge facts, avoid accountability or push nonsense? Well, one ask how do you know that? The simplest way to expose bad logic is to ask for evidence. So what proof do you have for that? Can you explain why you believe that? What would it take for you to change your mind? If they can't answer those questions? They're not speaking truth. They're clinging to a belief. They're just reciting lines from my Truth, the Musical no script. All improv.
Speaker 1:Two separate facts from feelings. When someone blurs emotions with reality, separate them. Hey, I get that you feel that way, but what actually happened? Hey, your feelings are valid, but feelings aren't facts. Hey, can we separate your experience from what is objectively true? This lets you validate their emotions without validating bad logic, without letting their feelings rewrite the Constitution or your sanity.
Speaker 1:3. Let reality teach them. Some people won't listen, no matter what, and that's fine, because reality has a way of proving itself. Someone ignores financial advice. Their bank account will wake them up. Someone denies consequences. Life will serve them eventually. Someone insists on rewriting history. Time is a way of sorting out the truth. You don't need to win every argument. You just need to make sure that you're not the one lying to yourself. Reality is the ultimate bouncer. It'll toss their truth out when the tab runs dry. Final takeaway Feelings do matter, but facts matter more. At the end of the day, you can have your experiences, your perspectives and your emotions, but you don't get your own version of reality. And if we don't get that straight as a society, we're all screwed. So here's the question when was the last time you changed your mind about something because the facts proved you wrong? Thank you.
